“When you are lost in your mind it doesn’t matter what anyone says to you, you won’t hear them. Only when you choose to question, not only mind, but what you believe
to be your inspiration will you be free”
Jacqueline Mary Phillips
I would like to share with you an experience with the SEJ that I had when I was told by a student ‘You are too busy to speak with me’ and I had a reaction. I have recorded a video diary as I had such a powerful experience with the transformative power of the SEJ process and I would like to share that with you in more detail.
The situation was that a female student came in unexpectedly one morning to speak with me. She told me that she has been emailing but I had not replied to her. She came in rather flustered and clearly in some agitated state. She started talking to me quickly and animatedly but I didn’t catch all that was said to me. In the middle of what she was saying she said ‘You are too busy to speak with me’. Well I heard that very clearly and boy did I chastise her for saying that. However as I became increasingly aware of my tone of voice and the irritation within me I decided to do 2 things:
To stop and listen to her so the matter could be resolved for her
To do the SEJ process as soon as possible.
We discussed how the matter could be resolved, she explained what’s happened so I understand. I made some phone calls so administrative staff could process the request she was making. She is now attending classes regularly and is fully engaged with the course. That part was the easy part.
Power of the SEJ
The SEJ process turned out to be one of the best examples of the transformative power of the SEJ.
I have learnt through training that being honest and authentic is crucial for the SEJ process to be effective and I took the time to write down all the thoughts I had during the conversation such as ‘what do you want?’ ‘how dare you say I’m too busy’ ‘ …of course I’m busy I have a lot to do’. It then dawned on me that ‘I’m too busy…’ is something I hear myself saying, but also many parents/teachers say that to their children or pupils/students!
Once I did the SEJ process and got to step 3 with evidencing, the truth was revealed more and more. The truth was she was perfectly right to say that to me and it wasn’t what she had said, it was the fact that she pointed out something that was honest and true that pushed a button within me. I believed I was right to be angry with her because she said something against me. I was angry with her because she was truthful and honest and I wasn’t.
Once this was revealed to me it was as if a light bulb had come on and I could clearly see what the TRUTH of the situation was. I carried on writing out the new evidence and the more I revelled in the truth the more heightened my awareness became, at step 4 there was no energy in the old story as if it never existed i.e. I was free. It was like I was now in a different reality.
It’s not that we are too busy with life, we are too busy to do the SEJ process but after this experience I am now questioning that. If this blog resonates with you, please ask yourself the same question and experience the freedom from limiting life to limitless life. Thank you.
Dr M Howard-Kishi