What makes you happy? Is it the new car, the new relationship, wage increase? What makes you unhappy, is it the rain, the loss of a job, change...? So your happiness depends upon everything outside of you. Whatever is happening or not happening determines how you feel and think about life. This is a truly dis-empowering way to live, and one that will keep you trapped in a life wishing constantly that things were different and forever looking for the happy tomorrow.
But what if your happiness, joy or peace is in this present moment? What if you just can't see or experience it because you are closed to life, shut down to the present moment because you are believing thoughts that take you away from the now, take you into a future that promises to be better in some way. What shuts you down anyway?
You shut down because you are believing thoughts about what is - thoughts that tell you that what is isn't right in some way. So yes you are judging life, judging people, judging yourself. Everyone is seeking joy, looking for happiness but unfortunately seeking it in the wrong place. Seeking it firstly through life events and other people, wanting life to bow down to your wants and needs, wanting people to bow down to your wants and needs and if they don't you will seek to change them, (rather than change yourself). Then you seek happiness in the future, but the future is a fictitious story that never arrives in the way YOU planned, so happiness keeps escaping you. The past is another place people seek happiness, they fill their lives, and homes with memories of happy times and keep comparing the now to a time when they were fitter, healthier, younger...
So can you see all you are really left with is the now, and so the only true place to find happiness is in the now. And the only way to access it in the now is to say YES to life, yes to what is. This is not to say you should agree with everything and be a doormat, no. But it is to simply agree that the moment is what it is and greet it with a willingness to work with it. It is quite simply to once again be open to life, to say YES!
Here's a tip. One of the ways to be open to life is to have the willingness to be wrong, to be open to the truth 'I know nothing'. When you can wake each day and say to yourself 'I know nothing' you will find a great freedom, you will be open to what life has to share with you, what others have to share with you. To be able to say yes, thank you or I'm sorry even. Many things will change when you 'know nothing'. Please do not hear this the wrong way, for it isn't about taking away from you what you know, but rather giving to you what you don't know, because now you are open to it, ready and willing to receive.
The SEJ process at each step asks you to question whether you are open or closed to life. It is an essential part of the journey to SELF empowerment. For to remain closed is to forever be unhappy. To be open is to live fully, right now, in the now!
Love Jacqueline x